Being smart is the ability to take as many aspects as possible into consideration before deciding on the future course of action. Of course, if someone is smart and successful, it is hard to pinpoint what exactly is responsible for that person’s success and well-being. Truth be told, it is far easier to notice what these smart people don’t do and arrive to a conclusion as to what is to be avoided. Some of the things they really avoid doing are given here.
18. ALLOWING ANYONE LIMIT THEIR JOY
Your sense of pleasure and satisfaction is derived from comparing yourself to others; you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they’ve done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or accomplishments take that away from them. While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt.
17. FORGIVE? YES, FORGET? NEVER
Smart people are quick to forgive, but that doesn’t mean that they forget. Forgiveness requires letting go of what’s happened so that you can move on. It doesn’t mean you’ll give a wrong doer another chance. Smart people are unwilling to be let down unnecessarily by others mistakes, so they let them go quickly.
Smart people know how important it is to live to fight another day. In conflict, unchecked emotion makes you dig your heels in and fight the kind of battle that can leave you severely damaged. When you read and respond to your emotions, you’re able to choose your battles wisely.
15. PRIORITIZE PERFECTION
Smart people won’t set perfection as their target because they know it doesn’t exist. When perfection is your goal, you’re always left with a sense of failure and you end up spending your time grieving what you failed to accomplish and what you should have done differently instead of enjoying what you were able to achieve.
14. TO STAY IN THE PAST
Failure can eliminate your self-confidence and make it hard to believe that you’ll achieve a better outcome in the future. Most of the time, failure results from taking risks and trying to achieve something that isn’t easy. Smart people know that success lies in their ability to rise at the time of failure and they can’t do this when they’re living in the past. Anything worth achieving is going to require you to take some risks and you can’t allow failure to stop you from believing in your ability to succeed. When you live in the past, that is exactly what happens and your past becomes your present, preventing you from moving forward.
13. RESIDE ON PROBLEMS
Where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you fix it on the problems that you’re facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress, which hinders performance. When you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and improves performance. Smart people won’t dwell on problems because they know they’re most effective when they focus on solutions.
12. HANG AROUND NEGATIVE PEOPLE
People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as rude. You can avoid getting drawn in only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Think of it in the way that if a person was smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the secondhand smoke? You’d distance yourself and you should do the same with complainers.
11. HOLD GRUDGES
The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. Just thinking about the event involved sends your body into fight mode. Holding onto a grudge means you’re holding onto stress and smart people know to avoid this at all costs. Learning to let go of a grudge will not only make you feel better now but can also improve your health.
10. SAYING YES ALL THE TIME:
The more difficult it is for you to say no, the more likely you are to experience stress and even depression. Saying no is indeed a major challenge for most people. No is a powerful word that you should not be afraid to face. When it’s time to say no, smart people avoid phrases like “I don’t think I can.”
9. OVERLOOK THE POSSIBILITY TO SAVE MONEY
Being able to handle your finances and save, by avoiding unnecessary expenses, is an admirable quality. In fact, it is surprising how many small details there are, warranting closer scrutiny. These seemingly meaningless expenses can be easily avoided and the amount of money you can save can amount to something rather significant.
8. DEPEND ON OTHERS
There is nothing wrong with having friends, family members, or coworkers you can trust and rely on. Everyone should have someone they can count on when things go wrong. Heavily relying on someone only portrays you as powerless. As a smart individual, you should never indulge in such thing.
Do not mistake the statement “Smart people don’t have fun” or “Smart people are boring.” You can have fun or have a good laugh. Irresponsibility does not equal to uninteresting; it only means smart people only like to have an organized lifestyle.
6. ENTIRELY RELYING ON HOPE
When you invest your time and efforts into something, hoping for the best possible scenario is what motivates the smart people, whereas preparing for the worst prevents them from falling apart. On the other hand, simply hoping for the things to work themselves out is no different from being lazy. “Hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.”
5. IGNORE NEGATIVE ASPECTS OF ANYTHING
One of the key factors responsible for success is attention to details or just paying good attention in general. When one is trying to be smart, he is generally governed by the idea that with a quality product, success is guaranteed.
4. HESITATE TO LEARN FROM THEIR MISTAKES
Mistakes are inevitable. Sooner or later something goes wrong and places a grave dent in the previously well-laid schemes of everyone. But smart people know the fact that you can’t always have everything under control. Arrogant people look for excuses and choose to blindly believe in their judgment. Not only does this kind of behavior hinder their future success; it also drives people away from them.
3. MAKE STRONG REMARKS THAT CAN MAKE THEM LOOK WEAK IN FUTURE
Actions speak louder than words. Don’t feel overconfident and use words of grandeur to describe your future actions. It only makes you look like an attention-seeker, who will inevitably lose his or her credibility. Credibility is of the utmost importance for one’s future and well-being.
2. BACK OFF FROM A GOOD CAUSE
Much like with the good idea, wise people do not back off from a cause worth fighting for. Revolutions were led and achieved thanks to these individuals, and luckily, our society is still flawed and can provide us with many causes worth fighting for. We are often criticized by our parents, superiors, or teachers about our tastes, our interests, and our hobbies. Honestly, they can be right from time to time, but throughout the course history, a fix has emerged.
1. USING GADGETS FOR PAStime
Lacking knowledge related to a certain field, or lacking the necessary skill to accomplish a particular task, does not automatically make someone incompetent. Smart people have a good way of overcoming these obstacles; they can find solutions to compensate for their shortcomings. Using your gadgets to their full extent can prove to be rather beneficial in a variety of scenarios.